Give Yourself Permission to be You
I will start this with a story about my daughter, she had a massive lesson on triggers and gifts last night. Mikayla is a beautiful, calm, level headed, loving soul , she teaches me every day with her grace and ease. So to rock her boat something big has gone down. Her boat got soooo rocked last night. Her privacy was violated big time and she was so upset and angry she really lost it!! She went into ‘did I put that there?’ ‘did I write that?’ ‘how dare she’ etc etc this is when you get pulled into the drama and get angry and upset. What she realised is, this isn’t her stuff, it was the other persons and all she had to look at was the trigger and what that is inside her, she realised that for her it was about giving herself permission to be her, fully, the good, the bad and the ugly. If people disrespect you then you don’t have to keep being ‘NICE’ to them. The line has been drawn in the sand and she saw that by getting upset only feeds that drama. What an amazing teenager she is, I would have loved to learn some of these lessons when I was younger. It was so interesting to also see what a ripple effect it had on all of us too. So at the start we all went into FUCK YOU stage and realised that we were just dropping to the same level as that other person therefore getting into the story and feeding it. So after a discussion it was clear to all of us that we just needed to be ‘us’ always and that ‘NICE’ doesn’t help anyone. By being nice I mean, you know when you try to keep the peace, you bend who you truly are to suit someone else, you are not being true to yourself. This is actually cheating yourself and the others involved so just show up and be you, your magnificent you. Mikayla has worked out what that is for her and what she will and will not put up with and is setting that in motion to all involved. For me I realised in the mirror mirror, that Mikayla is only me, that I too shifted something massive from her experience. I too gave myself permission to be me, all of my parts. Wow what a relief, I felt it in my entire torso, letting go and clearing, it was so freeing. For you guys reading this, listen and observe all your experiences and find out where you might need to give yourself permission to be you, or where the mirror is or what trigger must I give some attention too and do it then and there, not in a years time, now! If you get there while the iron is hot as they say, you can clear it so quickly with no fuss or drama. So it is done, it is done, it is done!!